Appreciation takes courage and resolve. It’s the high road and not everyone is willing to take it. When you choose thoughts of valuing and gratitude as your primary way of being, you are turning off the road well traveled. You are saying no to blame, to resentment, to revenge, to violence in any form, from bad-mouthing others, to kicking the dog, to berating a person. You are saying no to victim-hood, to martyrdom, to passing the buck, to criticism and to demeaning yourself or others.