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Loss

 Loss

We all experience loss in our lives.  Lost friends, lost love, lost loved ones, lost opportunities to be a better man or woman, business losses; losses of all manner and size.  Some are insignificant; some are life changing.  Some we deal with relatively easily, some will haunt us forever.  The losses that are unexpected, and for which we are unprepared are the hardest to deal with.  Life is cruising along with things going well and we get blindsided.

We often cannot understand why things happen as they do.  Why me, why now, what did I do to deserve this?  Could I have done something differently to prevent it; did I not pay attention to what was happening around me, did I subconsciously want this to happen; and if so, why?.

With the exception of life and death, most of the bad in my life, by action or inaction, is my fault.  Most of the good is because others helped me.  Helped me know right from wrong, helped me learn, helped me know how to love, helped me overcome my fears, and helped me accept my limitations.

Some things we can influence, some we cannot.  Some blame God’s will, or free will.  Some pray to God to change things.  Some folks ask God for something every day.

I think God is a pretty busy fellow, not inclined to help with the mundane. Personally, I have prayed for God to change something twice in my life.  Both times He answered my prayers, but both times he said no.  I accept his decision.  I don’t make trivial requests, so I remain hopeful for the few additional requests I will make in my life.  I won’t be asking for change; only for more time.

So don’t let a day go by without telling the people in your lives that you love them.  When you go to bed at night, do a quick inventory to make sure all those important people in your life know that they are important, and loved.  Any of them could be gone in an instant, or you could be. 

Mike DiGiuro may be reached at oruigid@gmail.com .